Relationships are hard in the first place…
Remember when you first started going out with someone… you love the fact that they were so laid back… they were just so relaxed… they never seemed to have a care in the world
If we are to be honest you started to idolise them… but then what happens?
After a while his ‘relaxed’ manner seems to grate on you… “they’re not relaxed… they’re lazy” you might think… “Sitting on the couch each day playing their guitar while I’m looking after the kids and cooking the meals”
What’s happened… You’ve demonised them for the very thing that you used to idolise them for… the same things that attracted you to this person in the first place.
Or how about this…
You started going out with someone… and they like to communicate… they talk through their feelings… they blog… they write songs… they think of words or ways of saying things that you have never thought of…
And if we are honest you might even start to idolise them a bit for it… but then what happens?
After a while you’re thinking… “OMG please just shut up… enough with your feelings… just give me space.”
You’ve demonised them for the very thing that you used to idolise them for… the same things that attracted you to this person in the first place.
And I’m sure if you think back you can think of a few different situations where you started to like someone and the things that they did made you smile… or you thought was cute… or made them interesting… only to find that after a while the things they do start to get under your skin!
The problem is people change… feelings change.
That’s why it’s so important to put God at the centre of every relationship that you…
Or in other words… put God at number ONE… so there is more chance for you TWO.
Those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things, but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that please the Spirit. Romans 8:5 NLT
You see… when you put God in the centre of your relationship… you’re not seeing the other person as a ‘conquest’ or just another partner… you start to see them as someone who you really want to care for… you really want to see succeed… you really want to see thrive.
It’s not about you anymore… it’s about what you can do for the other person…
Sometimes it may be as simple as just being you… and just being there for the other person.
But however it happens when God is in the centre of your relationship there isn’t any chance to idolise or demonise… because God is bigger than that.
I read a statistic recently that said around 50% of those who got married separated… shocking huh???
Those who prayed as part of their relationship… the stats went as low as only 20-25% separated… so there was an 80% chance of success.
Imagine if we started to do that with ALL our really close relationships??
Imagine how tight and united we would be??