A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle


Feminist Gloria Steinham famously made the statement “a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle”  it was pretty witty statement that has been thrown around for years… it even appears in the song ‘Trying to throw your arms around the world’ from the U2 album Achtung Baby (a song I love for the record).

I wonder…  if woman need to start thinking MORE like this…

Now before you think “Has Goose become feminist???”, I want to make things clear that I believe that we were created for relationship… and a relationship between a man and woman… an equal partnership, divided by the two different genders.

Ok so that’s clear…

I have so many female friends who are so eager to be in a relationship that they are almost willing to throw away all their beliefs… their hopes and dreams… their futures… just to hold onto a myth of  ‘the perfect relationship’

or sometimes it is just to have a man in their life…

or the illusion of a family unit.

Woman please hear me… know who you are.

You are more than just a relationship tyre that gets kicked around.

You shouldn’t be loved because you’re good in bed… or the kitchen… or look good on someone’s arm…

You should be loved because YOU ARE YOU…
That should be good enough for anyone who you meet who wants to be in a relationship with you… and if not –  they don’t deserve you… you don’t ever sell yourselves shorter than the beautiful princess that you are.

Know who you are…

There are so many women who have a low self esteem or a distorted view of themselves…
Here’s the thing… The God who made you doesn’t make junk… in fact it says in the Bible that  “he knew you BEFORE you were born”… and then if that wasn’t enough he sent his son Jesus to die on the cross just so that he could continue to live with YOU.
Even better than that… he wants to have YOU as part of his family…

The God of the universe loves you so much… why would you sell yourselves short for some guy who likes you in bed… but isn’t willing to help you with anything else??

Your partner should be willing to die for you… they want the best for you… the want to see you succeed…
You see true love looks like this…

It’s patient... it’s willing to take its time FOR YOU.
It’s kind… it’s not belittling you or making you feel bad.
It’s not envious… it doesn’t restrict your friends or screen your calls (unless your in a dangerous place)
It trusts you.

You see love gets the best out of you… sometimes it’s hard because the same that loves gives you… you need to be ready to give the same back… it’s a sacrifice for both sides.

Maybe the phrase should be “you need a guy who doesn’t really love you like a fish needs a bicycle”
Because when you find the right guy… he will move mountains for you.

But women… know who you are.
Because when you’re picky about who you are… you start looking for the same in the person you want to be with.

You are awesome... because that’s how you are made.

You don’t need to settle for someone who doesn’t love you for who you are… EVER!

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